How time flys!
So it has already been 9 weeks since Luka came into the world, and boy has it been a major life change. Keeping up with a newborn and toddler is properly one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to get used to. (It can be really tough at times). This new chapter in my life has filled my heart with so much joy and happiness, but also left me to tackle challenges and emotions that I never thought I would be faced with.
What it’s really like to look after a newborn and toddler?
Ok! so I’ll be raw and honest with you all- IT AIN’T EASY! I’m constantly torn between two children who want my attention 24/7 (literally). I’m not getting enough sleep that I’m used to and sometimes I get the mum guilt. (over the stuiped things that I realise later on). My youngest, I’ve learned is a very clingy baby and just wants mama all the time. His one of those babies that loves to be really really close. (Close like breathing onto him so he can feel my breath ahah I’m not even joking). Mateo, my oldest has slowly adjusted to his baby brother, but at times does get a little jealous when the attention is not on him. (I don’t blame him since he was the first grandchild on both sides of the family). I’ve started seeing the bond between the boys growing each day. Mateo occasionally runs to Luka when he cries, and tries to calm him down. He even brings him his bottle/pacifier. I think it’s so adorable and I encourage this, and make sure I tell him what a good big brother he is. (He loves this, and I can tell his so proud of himself).
How I’m managing sleep deprivation
Coffee coffee and more coffee! 😁I’ve honestly forgotten what it’s like to get a good night sleep. (My first born started sleeping all night 3rd month in, fingers crossed Luka follows this path too). Luka still wakes up every 3 hours but falls asleep straight after he finishes feeding. (He just feeds soooo soo slow and takes his time, something Mateo didn’t do). I think what has helped me with sleep deprivation is to take the boys out for a walk most days. I get some fresh air and I don’t feel as lethargic. My mum helps heaps as well and sometimes takes mateo for a few hours during the day. This allows me to take a nap when Luka is asleep. (I’m not much of a nap person but sometimes by noon I can bearly keep my eyes open).
Me, Myself and I
As for looking after myself – I make sure that ever day I do something for me. It can be as small as going in another room and painting my nails or putting on a face mask. Mid week I try and get out and do a small work out or go for a walk around the lake with my girlfriend (I havn’t really being doing this lately as I’ve had so many appointments for the boys). The weekends are my days to just get out of the house for a few hours. (Spend some time with my girlfriends- thanks ladies you keep me sane!) and just have some ME time. 😊 My husband also gets the opportunity to bond with the boys. We usually choose one day of the weekend to have family time. (We take Mateo swimming lessons and he really looks forwards to it).
Yes the questions I always get asked. How are you and vlad going being parents of two children under the age of 2?? To be honest, sometimes we literally want to kill each other- let me rephrase that…. I want to kill him ahahah just kidding!!! (I blame sleep deprivation lol). We have always had a really strong and solid relationships but having 2 children has definitely tested our relationship and at times it can get really difficulty coming to some sorta agreement without snapping at each other. Catering to the kids all day can leave me very moody and sometimes I tend to take it out on my husband (don’t we all?? Please say yes lol). We haven’t really spent that much time together these last few weeks as the boys consume all of our energy. Hopefully this slowly changes and we fall in love with each other again ahahahah (marriage+children= ain’t easy lol) My husbands birthday, Mateo’s 2nd birthday and our 5 year wedding anniversary is coming up next month and I have something really special planned 😉Stay tuned, I’ll be vlogging/blogging it).
So there you go! I hope this blog gives you a little idea of what my life has been like the past 2 months. Even though it hasn’t all been chocolates and roses, I know I’m blessed to have such a beautiful family who I love so much and wouldn’t change it for the world.
“It’s not how big the house is, it’s how happy the home is”. Unknown
(The bond they have makes my heart full)