So I thought I might update you all on what it has been like juggling a 2 year old and a 5 month old. Luka is 5 months already!! 😩 I seriously can’t believe how fast time is going. I think I write that in every post 🤷♀️but it’s crazy how fast children grown. This post is just a little insight on what my life has been like in the last 5 months. I talk about some of the challenges I’ve faced as well as some of the exciting moments we’ve had as a family.
Stay home mum!
So yes I’am a stay home mum and have been every since Mateo was born. It has it’s ups as well as its downs. Don’t get me wrong, I’am so lucky and grateful that I am able to stay home with my children everyday and see them grow. When I tell people I’m a stay home mum and don’t “work” they automatically think how good I have it. In reality being a stay home mum, it can be a lot more challenging than working 9-5. Think of it like this- I wake up at 5/6am everyday, l have to change/feed these little humans who relay on me 24/7, I have to entertain and make sure they are satisfied until I can finallyyyy…. attend to my own needs. It can also be very emotionally challenging because I’am stuck at home 24/7 (I try to get out as much as I can, but sometimes it’s just impossible or I’m way to tired).
So the first few months I thought I had the hang of it all, but eventually realised that at times things did get a little hard. Some days I literally wanted to cry (or maybe I did cry) and other days I was a happy chappy and everything seemed so easy. It’s really funny how motherhood works, one day you can feel like your so in control and the best mum in the whole world, while other days you might feel like you just can’t get anything right. 🤷♀️ Yup that’s my life! I’ve learned to be kind to myself and begin each morning on a positive note. Something I continue to tell myself every day when I wake up is -“It’s going to be a good day!” and to be honest, the day actually ends up on a positive every time. (If you don’t believe me try it for a week). 😊
Mateo and the terrible 2’s
So Mateo is just over 2 (2 years and 2 month to be exact), and boy have the terrible 2s really started. Things that I’ve noticed is when I’m holding Luka or giving him any kind of attention, Mateo will try and take that away from him. He would throw a massive tantrums. At first I didn’t know why he was doing this, but eventually noticed that he wanted to be my first priority. I had no idea how to handle this at first, and struggled at times to satisfy both children at the same time. Luka would cry because he wanted me to hold him, and Mateo also wanted me to play with him. 😩 I literally felt like I was being pulled from one side to the other and I was losing my mind lol. I decided to set up a play area in a room for both boys and every day we would sit down and play with all the toys together. I put a baby pillow in the room and I would sit Luka down and give him toys to play with. This allowed me to show Mateo a little more attention without having to hold Luka all the time. I’ve found that this approach has slowed down Mateo’s tantrums and his a lot more patient when I have to cater to his brothers needs. I’m Still learning to juggle them both especially when I’m on my own and Vlado’s not around to help, but it’s slowly starting to become a little easier
Luka started solids 🥑🍓🍐
So Yes as soon as Luka turned 4 months, I was straight onto the solids. (Keep in mind that all babies are different and only you know what is right for your child). Generally babies will show little signs that they are ready to eat solids. Luka would always open his mouth when he saw someone eating, or when I was holding food he would grab my hand and try and put the food in his mouth. So things like this may indicate that your child is ready for food, but to be honest their is no rush, as long as they are getting their milk. With Mateo we didn’t start him on solids till very late (I think it was like 5 and a half months). That was when he was ready and it was totally fine. Another exciting thing that happend the other day was Luka rolled over on his own while he was doing tummy time.😁😁😁 I couldn’t believe it! and YES it might not be exciting to some, but it was for Mateo and I, we even clapped and cheered him on ahahaha 🤣🤣(yes my family and I are strange 🤦🏼♀️).
My mum – The nanny!
I’ll be straight out and honest, my mum has helped soooo much with the kids and I could not thank her enough. Mateo loves spending time with his grandma and has not gone one day without mentioning her or saying baba (grandma). I remember when I was his age, I was with my grandma every day. She looked after me when mum had to go work and till days I will forever cherish those moments I had with her 🙏
So there you have it! some insight on what motherhood has been like for me the past few months. It has been a bit of a challenge, but I’m sure that I will be faced with a lot more challenges as they grow older! At the end of the day it’s important to realise that challenges are good! they are what allows us to continue learning, growing and becoming much stronger than we already are.
“Our greatest struggles always form our greatest strengths” Unknown